What are you worried about?

#1
I was thinking this might be an interesting topic of conversation.

It appears to me that we spend a fair bit of our time worrying about things that are out of our control.

What type of things worry you?
 
#2
Well, maybe I’ll kick things off! :D

I don’t really worry much about existential things, in fact I’m relatively worry free, but if I were to list the things that threaten my life, what I’d write down probably wouldn’t be the real threats. To put it another way, how much is imaginary?

Things I sometimes worry about:
Nuclear war.
Getting killed in a robbery.
Car/plane crash, even train crash!

Global warming doesn’t even feature.

As I was a professional pilot I wasn’t afraid of crashing, but since I’m not even allowed in the cockpit it is now something I fear. So, I don’t fly often. Control freak?

My vulnerability makes me fear someone entering the house at night. I was never very physical, but mentally being disabled has affected me. It certainly isn’t that we’re rich!

I feel Nuclear war is far more likely to happen rather than climate emergency problems, in the country I live. So far, I have shown myself that worrying about certain things is pointless. I never once lost any sleep about having a stroke, but that was what happened. It is a trick of the mind, because knowing things mentally doesn’t really help. I will still occasionally worry, probably about something that will never happen.
 
#3
Hmmm.....I worry about more than I should, but I can't seem to help it.

In no particular order;
Dying and leaving my wife alone in the world (dying doesn't worry me too much in itself)
Dying and not having developed various talents and expressed myself well with them
Work, work, work. I have heavy complicated responsibilities and I don't want to fail at work and let the company or team down or dishonor myself
Becoming mentally or physically weak
Socialist punks taking over my country
Socialist squishy effete liberals trying to take my guns and money or enacting some other laws designed to get people like me arrested
The liquor cabinet running dry and the store being closed


That's about it
 
#4
As I was a professional pilot I wasn’t afraid of crashing, but since I’m not even allowed in the cockpit it is now something I fear. So, I don’t fly often. Control freak?
Is this common amount retired pilots, do you know?
 
#5
To get worries in perspective. I have found following some stoic principles helpful. Your worries are your making, you control them. For example, Eric’s fear of left leaning government could be allayed by realising that plenty of folk don’t worry that outcome. That is an indication that the ‘worry’ is a feature of Eric’s mindset, and that mindset is really the only thing he can control in that instance.

Imagine how much more pleasant forums and social media would be if folk could examine their mindsets before becoming triggered/outraged/offended/angry etc.?
 
#6
To get worries in perspective. I have found following some stoic principles helpful. Your worries are your making, you control them. For example, Eric’s fear of left leaning government could be allayed by realising that plenty of folk don’t worry that outcome. That is an indication that the ‘worry’ is a feature of Eric’s mindset, and that mindset is really the only thing he can control in that instance.

Imagine how much more pleasant forums and social media would be if folk could examine their mindsets before becoming triggered/outraged/offended/angry etc.?
I don't know, Malf. Just because others don't worry about it doesn't mean it isn't something to worry about. I mean I'm sure Nazi's didn't worry about Nazis taking over, but the Jews certainly should have.
 
#7
I don't know, Malf. Just because others don't worry about it doesn't mean it isn't something to worry about. I mean I'm sure Nazi's didn't worry about Nazis taking over, but the Jews certainly should have.
It’s helpful, not perfect. But you’ve had to reference (arguably) the worst regime in history to make that point. Interestingly, a regime motivated by an inward looking, nationalist, populist, “fear of others” philosophy.
 
#8
Is this common amount retired pilots, do you know?
I don’t think so, but might be wrong. I think very few would admit it if they were. I remember flying with one or two Captains that were nervous as they got older and they were a right pain to fly with, that fearful energy filled the cockpit so made me tense too.

I was usually relaxed but very occasionally I felt real unease about a flight. I wrote about one such event in both my books.(One factual, the other more thoughtful)

”Now I'm a relatively easy going individual, but this whole thing was starting to get me wound up, I wasn't happy about the whole business, and to be honest, I was getting 'bad vibes' about the trip. Still, here I was, feeling alone and under pressure,"Get on with it, Steve", I said to myself.”

Such occasions were thankfully rare. Even now, my fear is dependent on certain circumstances. If I know and trust a certain Captain/crew and had seen that the weather forecast was good, it was day, I would likely enjoy the flight. However, if it were an unknown crew on an unknown airline at night, I’d probably be crapping myself. As my links with even my last airline are now nearly nine years old the chances are that I’ll have to learn to cope with the latter from now on. Head games.

When watching flying videos (I watch occasional ones), I very rarely get the same feeling in my guts that I got when things got tense, a different sort of tension to feeling fear I talked about here. This video brought back memories, both good and bad, and I know exactly what the guy experienced. This is an example of the type of situation that can easily go wrong. See if you can feel the tension, I think it’s there throughout the flight, but the last part of the approach gets interesting, that’s where my stomach knotted - its getting knotted just writing about it ! :

 
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